Third Trimester of Pregnancy – Hurry Up and Slow Down

third trimester thoughts and feelings

Third Trimester, here I come! It feels good to be this far along, feeling proud of accomplishing the task of making it through the first two trimesters. My bump is full and on display and baby is constantly reminding me that she’s very busy growing in there. Strangers congratulate me, friends and family are getting more and more excited for us and Ellie can finally SEE (and feel, as of last week) the tangible evidence of the baby sister we keep talking about.

third trimester thoughts and feelings

As with every stage of pregnancy, it’s a mixed bag of emotions and feelings. I want time to hurry up and slow down all at once. Physically, I want to be done, I’m in a lot of pain most the time. Emotionally, I’m good with being pregnant awhile longer, especially since this is most likely the last time I will be.

Change is coming
Even with all the change ahead, I’m feeling pretty at peace with it, which is saying a lot for me since I tend to prefer to know exactly how things are going to play out. I don’t know a lot of much right now, actually. We have so much to do – we’re rearranging 3 of the 4 bedrooms in our house, Ellie is transitioning from daycare to preschool, I just got back from an 8-day work trip, our daycare won’t be taking infants come fall, my work projects post-baby are up in the air… life is changing all at once. Ellie taught me so much about learning to go with the flow and here we already, learning that lesson again as number two is making her way into our world. A lot is going to change in the next couple of months and I have to keep reminding myself that it will all work out one way or another.

Our 28-week Appointment
At both my 13-week and 19-week ultrasounds, my placenta was in a “low-lying” position, which can be common in the early stages but needs to be watched as the pregnancy progresses. If the placenta were to stay low-lying, either too close to the cervix or covering it (placenta previa), there are certain precautions that would need to be taken. Activity usually is limited and a caesarian is scheduled. I stayed pretty positive leading up to the appointment, but there were still small worries in the back of my mind. First the technician did a regular ultrasound and took measurements of the baby – which was an awesome bonus as we never got an ultrasound past 19 weeks with Ellie. Baby is measuring at 2 lbs, 7 oz. Then the tech did a vaginal ultrasound to take measurements of my cervix and to check placenta placement. My Doctor gave us the good news soon after – my placenta had moved and was in a good position! Phew!

28 week pregnancy appointment

I’ve got a lot going on physically but it’s all “normal” and not a lot can be done to alleviate the discomfort. Here are my symptoms as I head into the third trimester:

  • Acid Reflux. I don’t eat gluten, spicy foods, or acidic foods and I take a Zantac every morning. I wish I didn’t have to but even with that, it’s still really bad. My least favorite part of both pregnancies for sure.
  • Rib Pain. As expected, my OBGYN told me there wasn’t anything to be done for this “extremely painful” condition that happens when your ribs splay and the muscle tears away from the bone (thanks to baby growing and the relaxin flowing through my body and relaxing the ligaments). I did see a chiropractor who diagnosed it as a “subluxated” (minorly dislocated) rib and popped it into place. Three appointments later and its getting better but still needs some work. 
  • Crazy Dry Skin (and itching). I drench my entire body in belly butter and oil every morning and hours later I can see my skin is peeling. This didn’t happen to this extent with Ellie.
  • A Super Sensitive Bladder, meaning obviously that I pee easily…when I sneeze, when I cough, when I laugh too hard or when I try to ride the bike in exercise class. It’s downright annoying!!
  • Mild Anemia – showed up in my latest blood test so I’m upping my iron intake with leafy greens, beans and some grass-fed red meat. I’m also going to ask my naturopath to add it to my vitamin injections.

third trimester thoughts and feelings

The Dichotomy of Feelings

I often find it hard to give the perfect answer to the question “how are you doing??” because I’m simultaneously happy and excited and also suffering and uncomfortable. Such is motherhood though, right? It’s so many things at once. Difficult and wonderful. Exhausting and exciting. Draining and fulfilling. It not only CAN be both at the same time, it most often IS.

So here I am: 31 weeks pregnant and wanting to be done with this pregnancy at the same time that I’m not ready to let it end. If only I could fast forward through the tough and slow down for the good stuff. Wish me luck with that. 😉

4 thoughts on “Third Trimester of Pregnancy – Hurry Up and Slow Down

  1. I remember 31 weeks. I remember that’s when things really started to get uncomfortable and I remember thinking, OMG, I have ~9 weeks left of this?!?!!! I was anxious and nervous as a first time mom – I’d never even held a baby when I got pregnant – and I had no idea what was in store for us. The thoughts, what do you do with a baby anyway, and what have we gotten ourselves into, kept running through my mind. We were in the middle or remodeling the house we had just bought and I was feeling the pressure to get everything packed and moved (seriously, what was I thinking, lol). I felt conflicted because I loved being pregnant (and had to fight to get pregnant with the help of a fertility doctor) and was so thankful to be pregnant, but I was so uncomfortable and scared and excited and happy and worried and hopeful that I just didn’t understand how all of these feelings could live at once inside me. Was it okay to feel these things? I just didn’t know.

    Then at 33 weeks and 3 days, my baby decided he’d had enough and was ready to see the world and all my questions were answered. Having a preemie was scary, but he was so big and strong and healthy that we just had to be in the NICU to make sure he stayed that way, and because everything was happening so fast, I didn’t realize until much later that I felt relieved that he was here – even if it was early and not at all how I imagined bringing him into the world. And while I spent 17 days with him in the NICU, I actually mourned what felt like the loss of my pregnancy. There I was with a perfectly healthy baby feeling heartbroken that I wasn’t pregnant for just a little while longer – talk about conflicted feelings. But I guess that’s just motherhood.

    1. WOW! What a roller coaster! I can’t imagine what I would feel if baby came so early…probably like you, some relief (mostly physical) but also some sadness that I hadn’t “finished” pregnancy like I imagined. So many conflicting feelings no matter what. I’m glad you had such a strong healthy baby and lived to tell the story! Thank you for sharing!

  2. I have two children and I remember feeling the same during my pregnancies. I did truly enjoy them both, as it was the only time I will ever had that true connection with my babies. There was a time when we were one. Reading your post was a pleasant reminder of the miracle of pregnancy.

    1. It really is amazing that right now we share a body. I feel so fortunate to be able to grow my baby inside me, how amazing is that!? The things I need to remember as things get painful and uncomfortable for sure. Thanks Christine XO

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